Are you praying together with your husband?
I grew up in a home where we read the Bible and prayed together, every single night. I’m not saying that my sister & I always stayed awake but we were present and accounted for.
When I got married, I envisioned doing the same thing with my husband…minus the falling asleep part. But for some reason, that didn’t happen.
Don’t get me wrong…Lance & I do pray together but making it into a daily routine never stuck. Blame my weird work hours or our very different sleep schedules. Whatever the case, it wasn’t happening the way I pictured it would.
I use to get frustrated and in my mind, blame him. After all, isn’t he the spiritual leader of our home? Why doesn’t he take charge and make it happen?
What I’ve come to realize is that my husband may be the spiritual leader of our home but that doesn’t mean he is the only one responsible for our prayer life together.
I may be the primary chef (and I use that term loosely) but Lance can still cook a meal for us. And he does. Yesterday, in fact. He knows way more about cars than I do but that doesn’t mean I can’t go get the oil changed. And I did. Last week.
Don’t let the enemy tell you that it has to be your husband who initiates prayer. If you end up asking your husband to pray with you, that doesn’t usurp his role as the leader. It allows us as wives to fulfill our role as his helper. Plus, if we let pride step in and just wait for our husbands to always initiate our prayer time, the only one who wins that game is the enemy because we miss out on that Spirit-prompted opportunity to pray.
I’m thankful for the godly husband I have who absolutely serves as the head of our home and my spiritual leader and covering. But just like I step in to help where I can with the car and other non-“typical wife” things, I can serve him by offering myself as a willing prayer partner with him. That is a win-win for both of us.
Proverbs 31:12, 27 (AMP) 12 She (a wife of noble character) comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil all the days of her life. … 27 She looks well to how things go in her household…