Regrets come in all shapes and sizes.
Like this guy – he probably regrets not finding a tattoo artist that could spell correctly.
Like that bad hair style back in the 80s. Exhibit A —–>
I have other regrets too – some are a bit more serious than frizzy hair. But I can also look back on certain things without regret…like changing direction in my career and saying “I do” to my husband. No
regerts regrets for me there.
As I shared with you all in last week’s post, my grandmother just passed away. In October 2015, she moved from India to the United States so my mom could care for her full-time.
I already knew my mom was a great mom but now I got to see what a great daughter she was.
Anything my grandmother wanted to eat, my mom cooked. Anything she needed, my mom did. If my grandmother didn’t want to go somewhere, my mom didn’t go either because she didn’t want to leave her alone for extended periods of time. Anything she wanted, my mom made sure she had including Kit-Kats…yes, my 92 year old grandmother loved kit-kats.
After my grandmother’s passing, I’ve been talking to my mom a lot about everything that has transpired over this past week. And of course, I keep asking her how she is doing.
Her answer comes back to one central theme – No Regrets.
My mom knew she had done everything in her power for my grandmother…and knowing that has made all the difference. I know that prayers for my mom are giving her strength during this time, but I also believe her lack of regret is a key contributor to the peace she is experiencing now.
There’s a question I’ve started asking myself everyday:
“If I could do yesterday over again, what would I change?”.
It’s a pretty simple question and some days, I end up with pretty simple answers.
Sometimes it’s “I shouldn’t have had those nachos at midnight” or “I should have done more reading and less Facebook scrolling”. Other days, it’s a little more serious like “I should have reached out to that person ” or “I shouldn’t have gotten so frustrated in that particular situation.”
The more I’ve asked myself this question, the more I’ve seen a trend. My answers tend to repeat themselves.
Go ahead – think back to yesterday…we often don’t have to look back any further than that. What would you have done differently?
Maybe you feel like your window of opportunity has passed. You see things in your life that you want to change but it is no longer possible.
Press on my friend. God doesn’t want you holding on to the shame, guilt, condemnation or regret.
Romans 8:1-2 (MSG) With the arrival of Jesus, the Messiah, that fateful dilemma is resolved. Those who enter into Christ’s being-here-for-us no longer have to live under a continuous, low-lying black cloud. A new power is in operation. The Spirit of life in Christ, like a strong wind, has magnificently cleared the air, freeing you…
But for the rest of us, continue asking yourself the question…and then do something with the answer. Self-introspection is great but days and lives are only changed when we put those thoughts into action.
Progress happens. Peace comes.